per slave girl's demand...

I've been thinking a lot lately about communication.

Communication is perhaps the single most important aspect of a strong relationship. Everything from dinner decisions to sexual fantasies to major life changing decisions that will determine the future of a relationship depend on strong communication.

For me, communication is not an issue. I'm one of those people who is not only capable, but prone to sharing my thoughts, opinions, and feelings - on everything from dinner, to sexual fantasies, to major life changing thingies. And I'll be the first to admit that I'm loud - and that even though I have all these fabulous, eloquent, words in my head (even if I cant pronounce all of them 100% correctly, 100% of the time) I often use very blunt phrases to express myself, meaning there is really no doubt what I'm thinking or feeling about on just about anything.

But.....

Not everyone is a loudspeaker of thoughts and feelings like I am. Somebody ***cough cough slave girl cough cough *** who shall remain nameless to protect the quiet - seems to struggle more than I can really fathom with being able to express thoughts and opinions. And I haven't been very understanding about it *smacks hand - bad Mattress*. To be fair, I'm trying, I really am, its just a little like my trigonometry class. In theory I can understand that if you properly plug in your numbers and variables into a formula you should get the correct answer every time. In reality though - it just doesn't click, and I end up banging my head against my desk while my Professor gives me a pity C for trying harder than he has ever seen anyone try (and still not get it). So while I can understand that my nameless quiet mouse may have a block that makes it damn near impossible for her to vocalize opinions or thoughts, it (much like trig) just doesn't click.

So we are at an impasse. If we accept as fact that communication is the most important aspect to a strong relationship, and the unnamed quiet mouse and I are struggling to communicate then unless something changes we are inevitably weakening our relationship day by day, leading to its ultimate failure.

I'm not about to let that happen. I ubber heart my slave gi.... I mean my unnamed quiet mouse. And I want to make our new, unorthadox, and more than just a little odd relationship work. I think that if we can overcome the communication barrier it will help with a lot of our other issues as well, like my jeleousy, and the unknown, unexplained, apperently random sadness from quiet mouse.

What i'm offering is a compromise, one that requires us both to step outside out comfert zones and push a few (for a change non sexual) limits.
I'll be more understanding and lest judgmental of quiet mouses mental block (and instead of getting frustrated and pushing, which only makes it worse, i'll back off and trust that when shes ready she will share those thoughts wondering around in her head) - if she can bring herself to open up to me outside of her wonderful blog. I really, really, and truly want to know what shes thinking about - what she cares about, what shes passionate about, what she does or does not want for dinner. I want her to express to me the same kind of thoughts and opnions that she so eloquently shares in her blog. I dont expect for her to start sharing everything all at once, I know it will take time, and paitence (something I dont have much of) and trust - we can start slowly in the begining.......

What do you want for dinner quiet mouse?